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THE CATHOLIC DIOCESE OF LANSING
FIRST ANNUAL CATHOLIC WOMEN'S CONFERENCE
The story of the woman at the well is a marriage proposal and is
a great place to begin in sharing how we are treasures in earthen vessels. It is strangely reminiscent of the song we sang
as children “first comes love then comes marriage then comes the baby in the
baby carriage”. First there was God who
is love. Then the word was made
flesh. Jesus is the Bridegroom.
That childhood song was a song about the holy Trinity and the
call of our God into the marriage relationship of the bride and bridegroom and
how we will be transformed into new creations.
Theology of the Body gives us a beautiful lens from which to fully
understand what the old Baltimore catechism said when it said we were created
to know love and serve God to give you him forever in heaven.
The woman at the well is symbolic of all of our brokenness because
of the sin in our lives, all of the inadequacies and all of the ways in which
we fall short and yet God comes to us and seeks us out.
This is the marriage proposal. We are made for connection we are
made for relationship.
Where we struggle in this is when SHAME gets in the way of allowing
others to truly see who we are or to allow others to truly see us.
That’s where vulnerability comes in.
VULNERABILITY IS NOT WEAKNESS. How many think it takes
vulnerability to speak in front of an audience of 800 people? It is true that vulnerability involves
emotional risk and uncertainty but what vulnerability really means is to have
courage.
Vulnerability is birthplace of creation and transformation.
To create is to make something that never existed before like the unique
and unrepeatable person. When we have
the courage to really open ourselves to look into our hearts and even more
importantly let others really and truly “see” us, we become transformed. “ Grace perfects our nature”.
In the garden, we were naked without shame.
“Naked without shame” is about knowing who we were as persons made
in Gods image and likeness and our nature was perfect. When we fell from Grace due to original sin
shame entered into the world.
Shame is the devil’s proposal about who God is and who we are.
Shame says one of two things; “you will never be good enough” or
“who do you think you are”.
Adam and Eve covered themselves because they said yes to the
devil’s proposal. Because they were
unwilling to be vulnerable enough to go to God and trust in who He said we are,
they fell and the consequence was sin.
A very basic understanding of sin is separation from God. In the Old Testament sin is described as a
transgression. It is not just a violation of the law, but because the law was
meant to protect as persons and to protect our world and our environment and
God’s creation it is also a violation of God and violation of us so every time
we separate from God and transgress upon his will we transgress upon ourselves
and of all of creation. Sin, missing the
mark and falling short of the glory of God.
So with three
Sin has its effects always in wounding. Sin always wounds. There is no sin that
doesn’t wound. It wounds us and it
wounds others around us. We have no
possibility of living in this world without being wounded.
What SHAME does is it takes the guilt we feel and turns the
belief of “What I did was bad” into the belief that “I am bad”.
SHAME then makes us feel that we are unworthy of connection. It
is in believing we are not thin enough, beautiful enough, successful enough or
smart enough that SHAME turns our focus from who we are as unique and
unrepeatable persons into who we think we “should be” or “should be doing”.
Shame makes us feel we are not good enough and that we will
never be good enough.
The story of the woman at the well reminds us of whom we
truly are which is the beloved of the Bridegroom and that God desires to marry
us.
God knows all the places we have failed him and will fail him
and yet he created us anyways. Out of all of the potential people God
could've created we were chosen to be created and to come into the world to
exist in fact of this very particular time in history.
But it gets better than this!
God is calling all of us to enter into the redemption of the world! God could have chose to redeem the world
anyway he liked. What he decided was
that he wanted all of us to enter into this great work with him.
He does this by transforming our wounds much like his own were
from the power of the cross. His “cracks” were in fact the greatest gift given
to the entire world. Our wounds, our
cracks, our inadequacies become the very place, once transformed like a firing
kiln to a clay pot, becomes the very form from which God can best shine
through, pour out of and be given to others.
He is magnified by our smallness and our weakness.
God is calling you and is issuing a marriage proposal in which
He desires to transform you and touch the lives of those around you through
your fiat.
A treasure in earthen vessels is about our unique and
unrepeatable personhood, it is about our immortal soul chosen by God to be
called into existence. The earthen
vessel reveals that the person we are is feminine or masculine and also is a
sign that we are called to love like the trinity. But the earthen vessel also speaks to us
about form.
Form, and the material from which it is made reveal its
purpose. If I held up a cup and asked,
“What is it?” unless we were from another world where they do not use cups, we
would know it is a cup and that it holds liquid. We know understand what it is because of its
form
Our form is meant to be a visible sign of Christ to the
world. It is not just our masculine or
feminine person that our form reveals but it tells a story of the Bride and the
Bridegroom.
In Caryll Houselander’s book “The Reed of God” she uses three
forms to reveal how Christ “shines” through our cracks”, The reed, the chalice,
and the birds nest.
The Reed grows on the riverbanks and must be cut with a knife
and then hallowed out with notches cut into it to create its form. Some of our stories include this kind of
shaping. We are cut and hallowed out. We
may think that we have nothing to give, our brokenness, or even our sinfulness might
make us believe that God could never possibly choose us. The woman at the well
is a reminder that God does chose us and when we allow him to redeem us, it is
as if we are pressed to the lips of the master and when His Spirit blows
through the reed, lyrical music is created because of the hallowing out and the
notches that had been cut.
Some of our stories are like a chalice. A chalice is made from gold that has to be
first hewn from the mud, then forged in fire before it can be poured into it’s
mold. It then has to be pounded by a
mallet to create its form. For those
whose forming came from the succession of blows or from the purification of
fire, they may understand that they are like Gold, that they are good, but they
may not believe themselves worthy of greatness.
It is the age-old question “Who do you think you are? If we remember that we are the beloveds of
Christ, that He called us into being that we are His, then we remember who we
are. A chalice is used to offer the
great sacrifice of the mass. For those
whose form is like the chalice, God desires to fill you with the water and
blood that gushed from His sacred heart so that through your form you can pour
Him out to a thirsting world.
Finally, for those who are shaped like the nest of a bird, the soft
downy feathers of a tender mother bird’s breast create the form. For those who may have been formed by loving
parents, in a prayerful home and have no painful formation as part of their
story the temptation could be to say that they do not have a unique or
inspiring story. Those whose story includes love, fidelity and affirmation are
not only hope and inspiration for the world but it also creates a person more
fully capable of revealing Christ. This
story is an example of how each of us is called to become tabernacles.
We are to bring Christ to the world with our own hands and feet,
with our own stories.
Each of our stories is as unique as our fingertips, as unique as
our personhood.
We are the vessel and form helps us to tell the story of who Christ
is and who we are in Christ. We should never underestimate the power of
conversion to work through even the most broken of vessels.
Lazarus is an example of just such a vessel. He was
dead. A rotting corpse and according to
chief mourners “stinking” and yet when Christ shone through Lazarus, an entire
city and now every generation to come, was converted through his story and
through his form.
For me, my form is the reed.
I have been hallowed out, whittled and cut into. The story I have to tell is of being
transformed through my children and my husband.
I've been able to identify specific attributes or virtues that
God has helped to develop in me for each one of my children.
For Maegan it was vulnerability, for Sara it was selfless love,
for Elisha it was the need of affirmation, for Gabriel it was submission, for
Annamarie it was long-suffering, for Mercedes it was Mercy, for Christopher it
was joy, for Jonah it was perseverance.
For each child I have received a healing of a major wound,
crack, or notch cut into me. God
transformed it and the grace He has given to me in each of these areas have
brought me freedom to love more rightly
Each time I was cracked, wounded or cut into because of my sin
or the sin of others, the enemy proposed a lie so to enter into my heart and
bring me to a place of shame.
Christ helps to expose the lies and bring healing to our wounded
hearts and when we become vulnerable and allow Him in to truly see us, Christ
transforms our wounds and they become like stained glass windows illuminating
and radiating God’s beauty, God’s light, God’s truth to the world.
They
will know us by our joy they will know us by our love. In this year of faith we
are called to transformation. The new
evangelization is about allowing Christ to permeate us. We embrace our greatness when we dare to take
what we know in our heads and connect it to our hearts. When we move from knowing God, to being in an
intimate relationship with Him.
When
we allow ourselves to truly be seen and to really see the person God puts in
front of us everyday is when we enter into one another’s story of
redemption. God works through cracked
pots, because His greatness is magnified in our weakness. The truth is that the enemy puts salt in our
wounds because he is terrified that if we actually go into the wounds and bring
Christ there with us, we would discover that when Christ redeems them, they
become like jewels in the Crown of the creator.
You
are a treasure in an earthly vessel and your form reveals a call to love and to
be loved from the bridegroom to His bride.
All it takes is your “fiat” which is the greatest “I DO” you can ever
utter. HERE is more on this:
Healing The Whole Person- Reprint AND A TALK TO GO WITH IT.
http://ia701502.us.archive.org/14/items/AnatomyOfAWound/3-01AnatomyOfAWound.m4a
Healing The Whole Person- Reprint AND A TALK TO GO WITH IT.
http://ia701502.us.archive.org/14/items/AnatomyOfAWound/3-01AnatomyOfAWound.m4a
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